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Matchmaker May

Done with the apps?Let me introduce you.

I'm May, and I've been a matchmaker since 2009. Joining my network is free for women. Tell me a little about yourself, then book a free 30‑minute video call with me.

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Certified by the Global Love Institute

How it works

  1. Tell me about you

    A few quick questions about you and what you want. It takes about two minutes.

  2. Talk with me on video

    Pick a time for a free 30‑minute Zoom call. The earliest slot is tomorrow, so I have time to read your answers first.

  3. Meet the men I choose for you

    When I meet a man I think you'll like, I will send you his photos and a short bio. If you both say yes, I set up the date, time and place. Afterwards, I will ask how it went.

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Hi, I'm May

At 30 I was single. I had a career I loved and a full life, and I still hadn't met the right person. I tried a dating service and hated it. I knew I could do better. So in 2009, after 11 years in corporate America, I quit my job and started my own matchmaking agency.

I'm certified by the Global Love Institute and a member of the Matchmakers Alliance. I also host a dating podcast.

I work with singles across the U.S., and our first call is on video, so it doesn't matter where you live. And I answer my own phone. You'll be talking to me.

“Love isn't one-size-fits-all. It's shaped by culture, upbringing, and shared values.”

What it costs you

Nothing.

Joining my network is free for women, and so is every introduction. The men pay for my service.

The men I work with

Every man I introduce you to has hired a matchmaker to find a partner. That's a big step, and it tells you he's serious. Most are between the ages of 35 and 65, accomplished in their careers and ready for a committed relationship.

Some introductions come from my own clients, and I get to know each of them before I introduce anyone. Others come through matchmakers I partner with across the U.S., so you're not limited to one list.

You always see his photos and bio first. Nothing happens unless you say yes.

Your privacy

Your profile is never public. It isn't posted on any website, and it isn't sold. When I think a man could be right for you, he (or his matchmaker) sees your first name, age, city, photos and a short description of you. We exchange your phone number after you both agree to meet each other and the date is set up.

You can ask me to delete your information at any time. Just email may@matchmakermay.com.

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Questions women ask me

Is it really free?

Yes, completely. The men are my paying clients, so there's nothing for you to pay.

What happens on the video call?

We talk for 30 minutes on Zoom. I'll ask about you and the kind of man you want to meet, and you can ask me anything. It's a relaxed conversation. If I don't think I'm the right matchmaker for you, I'll tell you.

What happens after the call?

When you're a good match for one of the men I'm working with, I send you his photos and bio by email or text. The decision is yours. If you're both interested, I arrange the date. Afterwards I ask you both how it went. If you both want to keep seeing each other, you already have each other's information. Please get to know each other better. Your feedback helps me pick out your next introduction.

Am I guaranteed an introduction?

No. I introduce you when one of the men I'm working with fits what you want and you both agree to meet. If I don't have a match for you, I will keep your information and keep you in mind for others. The more open you are, the more often you'll hear from me.

What photos should I send?

Just one recent photo with the form, so I can picture you before we talk. If we work together, I'll ask for a few more: a headshot, a full-length photo and one of you dressed for a first date. No hats or sunglasses.

Where do you work?

All over the U.S. Introductions are easiest if you live near a major city. I work in New York, Los Angeles, the San Francisco Bay Area, Dallas, Chicago, South Florida, Scottsdale and more.

Book your free call

Two quick steps: a few questions, then a time that suits you. It's free for women.

Step 1 of 2

Tell me about you

About two minutes.

Pick the nearest city, or choose Other and type it in.

Your age
What are you looking for?

Your call details go here.

So I can reach you about your call.

A recent photo of you

Just one, so I can picture you before we talk. Only I and my team see it.

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